These are the six biggest mistakes women make in relationships, purely from a  guy's perspective. They are in no particular order, except for the last one.  That is most definitely the biggest mistake you can ever make.

1) Expecting the Worst
He does X, is he cheating? He does Y,  is he gay? He does Z, is he leaving me? Same three questions, every day without  fail, sometimes (usually) multiple times on the same day. Very rarely is the  answer yes. It is more usually "Grow up and stop being so pathetic," which,  while fun for me to answer, is not terribly flattering to the questioner or  readers.

Let's take one case as an example.
You go out with friends for a night on  the town and don't phone him during the evening. Maybe you have no signal. Maybe  your cell battery is dying. Maybe you expect him to phone you at some stage.  Maybe you are simply having too much fun letting off steam. Hell, maybe the club  is simply too noisy for you to hear your phone! Yet when he gets really upset  that you didn't call, you get offended. Start feeling that he doesn't trust you  and is trying to stifle you.

Trust works both ways. If he cannot trust you, he should not be with you. If  you don't trust him, then why are you still with him? Get me? Of course, people  do change...

2) Closing your Mind
One of the saddest types of questions  we get are from people who refuse to move on. Ones who have an ideal time and  ideal situation and desperately want to keep that at all costs, who ask where  the thrill and the joy has gone, not demandingly, but sadly, almost  hopelessly.

People do not stop growing at the magic age of 21. Every experience you have  changes you in a small way, meaning the joy of a relationship has to be  relearned each and every single day. It is hard work. Far easier to  nostalgically hark back to the perfect time, instead of accepting that both you  and your partner have changed. Sometimes, yes, you have grown apart. That  happens. But more usually, it is that he no longer matches the mental image you  have of him. One day you wake to find a total stranger in your bed and it freaks  you right out. The other side of keeping your mind open is, of course...

3) Closing Your Eyes
No, I don't mean during sex, that  simply helps the fantasies and the feeling it. I mean during warning signs. One  of the constant problems we get here is the inconsiderate, or distant, or  cheating, or downright abusive partner.

Now that happens more than it should, and I am in favor of mandatory and  severe beatings of the guys in question, but a lot of the time the gal involved  should have noticed the warning signs and got the hell out before this happened.

Instead, they get all hopeful and dewy eyed that love will find a way and  forget that rule one for every person on the planet is keep a whole skin or die  trying. You all know me well enough to know that I put the blame for this crap  firmly where it belongs, but please, seriously, just pay attention to what is  going on! Which brings us on to...

4) Being Too Dependent
This is probably the most common  mistake, and the dumbest. You are seriously telling me you can't make the  simplest decision or do the simplest task without his guidance? The guy wants to  be a partner and lover, not your father!

On that note—we here are not your fathers, either. You don't need our  permission to do the things you ask about. You are adults.

You know guys  say they like an independent woman? They actually mean it, or at least the  decent ones do. It is not a partnership when one has to constantly carry the  other, and any respect he has for you soon disappears if you are showing all the  personality and drive of a damp sponge. Of course, sometimes it goes the other  way...

5) Taking Ownership
You all know the type I am talking  about. Treats her boyfriend or husband as a possession at best, a not terribly  bright pet at worst. Really got the wrong idea about what makes a strong woman,  probably from her mother and plays out the stereotype we see on TV every  night.

Your partner is not there to be trained to your immaculate standards, nor to  be ridiculed into submission. A relationship is not a war, the victor in the  battle of wills you do gets absolutely nothing except the glow of temporary  satisfaction before he slips away to bang one of the neighbors. Which brings us  finally to...

6) Not Listening
The biggie. The one that combines the rest.

One of the things that brings me joy in this job is reading the comments.  Yes, even the ones telling me to grow up and stop being so nasty, sexist and  arrogant are appreciated. Once a week I will check comments from the preceding  month—sometimes the questioner has a secondary question, sometimes there are  good points raised I want to comment on myself, and sometimes I just indulge my  vanity.

There are a lot of smart, compassionate people reading here. Women and men  who know exactly who they are and pretty much what they want. Who have been  through the mistakes above and have come out stronger and wiser.

Wisdom comes from everywhere, but the best advice comes from someone who has  been exactly where you are. There is always someone who has been there before.  Listen to them. As in, really, really listen.

Well, that turned out a bit more introspective than I intended. Also took a  long time to write. Honesty usually does, rage or fluff is much, much  easier.

Source: Glamour