LADIES,

Have you ever met a guy and started getting to know him and you find out that you really like him a lot.  He's cute, he seems to say all the right things, he doesn't call too much but when he does its the right time.  He treats you like a queen, he is happy to be with you, he makes you laugh and treats you with respect at all times.... and you honestly feel like you have finally found a great guy!  BUT THEN.........as the relationship goes on he slowly transforms into this different guy.  He doesn't do the romantic things as often, he seems to kinda get irritated with you more often, he sometimes puts his friends ahead of you, he plays video games more often, he doesn't seem to be as spontaneous and exciting as he once was, he more easily tries to control what the 2 of you do, if you won't have sex with him he gets subtly cranky, and overall he just gets comfortable with the relationship and doesn't put forth as much effort once he has actually "gotten" the girl (you)!  Then...once this happens, you start to very slowly grow farther away from him to the point that 6 months, a year, or two years down the road you find yourself thinking..."I don't think he is the right guy for me"....then, as these male complacency issues grow larger because every time you even try to gently criticize him and communicate how you feel, he is more worried about getting defensive and "justifying" how your wrong as opposed to honestly CARING about exactly what your going through?!!!  Well......most men in the world fall guilty to this, some of them don't even realize it until its too late....they are the ones that are begging you back after you dump them and they tell you they "realized" how they messed up and even if you take them back, things are only better for a short time before he goes back to the old ways!  I would say that "most" men make these mistakes!  Even the good guys that are out there can fall into these habits!.....I wish none of you would ever have to put up with it.  I Wanted to get that off my chest, thanks for reading!