Oh the push present. Something that I am sure has reared its ugly head in a delivery room or two. I am a big fan of managing expectations. And this is one of those expectations I am going to need to self manage. Do I think a pregnant woman deserves a present for sacrificing her body for 9 months and then proceeding to rip up her body all in the name of childbirth? You bet she deserves a gift. Are most fathers even going to think of this? Not mine.
I feel like this is another one of those things that the guys who totally get it and are those rare gems amongst the men, ruin it for everyone else :) Hear me out. If so and so hadn't heard from their friend that so and so got the most amazing necklace as a push present...or a brand new coach purse when she gave birth...I bet you the thought wouldn't have even crossed her mind. I am sure she is thinking, well geez, this child I am holding in my arms is present enough for me. But of course, when you actually take a step back and think about it- (and again I am just being completely honest and feel free to judge me for it.) My husband and I are receiving the same gift, but yet, I am the one who did all of the work! Of course I want that push present. I earned that present!
I am wondering how many awkward moments this has created. A mom has pumped herself up to see what amazing push present the father has thought up. She waits all day after giving birth for "that surprise" and nothing comes. It is like waiting and waiting for that engagement ring at Christmas, and it not coming., even when you open up a jewelry box and he is shocked when your response is really...a charm for my charm bracelet? You look like a selfish princess, when the thought hadn't even crossed his mind that it is shaped just like a ring box, you have been dating for four years, and you may have even looked at rings. (this is the sole reason I had always told my husband I NEVER want to be proposed to on Christmas.) And of course you can't be openly mad because you still have this thoughtful gift in front of you, but you are severly disappointed that it isn't your engagement ring. I feel like many mothers have had this happen to them in term of push presents. Again, you heard from your best friend the amazing push present she got. You wait all day, and get nothing. You can't express your disappointment because you would then be ungrateful and look like a brat. What are your thoughts on the push present?