So Michael and I have quickly gotten over the whole newness of being engaged and got right to work planning.  Actually it is more like I got to work planning, and he got to work avoiding anything and everything to do with the wedding.  He is already on wedding overload :)  It is kind of funny and frustrating at the same time. At the very beginning of the process I sat him down and said allright, what decisions do you find to be absolutely crucial?  For example, what decision would I need your input on before making?  This is what he stated.  He wanted a say in the cake, tuxes, and menu.  Other than that he pretty much gave me the go ahead for everything else.  Or at least that is what I thought. I do attempt to run all of my decisions by him, not whether or not he decides to listen to me while I am talking is completely up to him :) Now when I tell him I signed a contract for something or put a deposit down- he immediately asks, well what the heck, why didn't I have a say?!?!?  Is this just us, or is this the typical planning process? 

Granted, we have only made three decisions, but big decisions at that, the three most important decisions if you ask me.  We booked a hall, a dj, and a priest.  The priest was another issue in itself.  As most of you know I was raised catholic.  My dad is a deacon.  Time after time we get the question- so is your Dad going to marry you?  Yes my dad can marry us- will he?  No.  Michael and I talked about it and decided that my dad's job that day is to be my dad.  His job is to walk me down the aisle.  (for people who aren't familiar with catholic tradition- if my Dad was to marry me he would have to be fully robed in the proper church attire- so no tuxedo allowed.)  That may seem like a vain reason, but every little girl who imagines their dad walking them down the aisle, they imagine their dad in a tux, not full religious apparel.  Thankfully Michael took one for the team and stood his ground on this issue.  I know this was something my Dad was looking forward to doing, but Michael being the supportive fiancais he is said no, and let me put some of the blame on him so I wouldn't feel as guilty.  After we decided my dad wasn't going to marry us, we then got into the big debate of Catholic versus lutheran service. 

 Both of us are stubborn people and I thought this would be a huge hurdle, but after doing some research on the internet, we kind of let the churches decide for us.  I did not realize their were such hoops to jump through!  We even thought about a non denominational service as a compromise, but we have the big issue of living together.  As you know many churches and people frown upon it.  So nondenominational was out.  Then, we looked at both lutheran and catholic churches.  Most churches were telling us we had to be official members of their church before even being allowed to set a date.  Well, since we already had a date set and a hall booked, I figured this was non negotiable.  So we weighed our options and I called my former neighbor in Green Bay, who just so happens to be a priest.  He agreed to take a trip to Appleton and marry us.  I couldn't be happier with this decision.  He used to be my neighbor.  He and I had shared a few beers together on my patio, and he also had married a few of my friends.  Michael had also met him before at a wedding we stood up in together three months prior, and may or may not have shared a few cocktails with the man :)  We talked about it and decided it was more important that we know the person marrying us, and actually have a relationship with the person than whether or not it be lutheran or catholic.  So in the end, the decision was made for us.

Now that all of that is done- we kind of have nothing to do but sit and wait.  I have two dear friends getting married in the next month, who are also a part of my wedding, so I want to wait until their big days are over, before I bombard them with mine.  So until then, we pretty much have nothing going on....BUT maybe you can help us fix this debate- our wedding song....

I know I know we have 10 months to figure this out, but this has been a huge debate between us.  These are the two song we want.  I won't tell you who picked who to make it fair.  cast your vote here...