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It's getting real up in here... Posted February 22, 2012 by Katie Marx

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Oh boy we are officially one month away from the Big Day!  Am I getting nervous?  Absolutely-but not about the marriage.  I am nervous about the day in general.  I never understood what was so stressful about being a bride, but I realized it is about relinquishing control.  You have to trust other people to do their jobs.  You have to trust the flowers will show up on time.  You have to trust the photographer will be there on time.  You have to trust the driver is going to pick you up and get there on time.  You have to trust that the weather will be cooperative.  Tons of stuff that I have absolutely no control over, and it is frustrating!!!

We sent out the invites about three weeks ago, and still waiting to get about 2/3 of them back.  It is funny when you are sending them out thinking oh boy I hope not everyone can make it, it is going to be pricey, but then when you start getting the no's it really gives your ego a shot.  You start to think, oh did I do something to offend them?  Or whats worse is the people who haven't responded yet.  You sit and think wait, don't they already know if they are coming or not?  Were they really lying to me when they said they were excited for my wedding?  If they are so excited, why have they not rsvp'ed??  It is so ridiculous!  No wonder I have been grinding my teeth at night!  What did you guys find to be the most stressfull things when you were getting down to one month?

1st Shower Posted February 15, 2012 by Katie Marx

We had our first shower this weekend and we had a blast!  It was a family shower put on by Michael's fantastic Aunts.  The Marxs' and the Schurks all gathered in Neshkoro to celebrate the upcoming nuptuals!  We got quite the haul and loved spending the time with our family!  Thanks again to our Aunts- you guys are the best!

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I love the sign they made us!  Our last names combined are the Scharx...We aren't exactly sure who gave us the name, but we have been called the Scharx for years now. 

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They made these adorable favors!  They really went all out to make us feel special!

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One of our ringbearers Zach and our flower girl Gracie

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The kids LOVED these!

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We played some games.  I dominated!

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The Scharx!  37 days away from the Schurks!

Card Box Posted February 14, 2012 by Katie Marx

So as I was purusing the websites once again, I realized I needed a card box.  No problem, should just be able to check that off the list...yep, not so much.  First of all- if you look online, do you know how ridiculously expensive they are?  Don't even waste your time on the crafty websites looking for one-you would struggle to find one for less than 50 bucks, and a friendly reminder, this serves no purpose except to hold your cards from your wedding for about six hours.  Just another ridiculous and obnoxious cost in the wedding planning process.

I decided I was going to call my future father in law and see if he could help me out.  And you bet he did.  I sent him a picture of something I was considering, and just let him go.  I think his wife helped him quite a bit, (or at least I would like to think that she was the one who suggested glitter :))  Anyways, it is PERFECT!  I LOVE IT!!!  So when you are thining of things to do to make things a little less expensive, here is an easy way to save money.  Either make a card box yourself, or enlist a friend of famly member to make one for you.  I think this is so much better and personal than anything I could have purchased online.  Thanks Jim and Sue!!!

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Maybe the most useful Wedding Advice I will ever post. Posted February 8, 2012 by Katie Marx

Found another fantastic article...

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Because this seems to be a topic that has several people hitting the panic button, here is how to pee while wearing your wedding dress:

On arrival at your venue

  • Open the door of the ladies' room and look in.  If the floor is not clean, call the venue staff and ask to have it cleaned.
  • If the floor is clean, walk into the ladies' room and open the door of the handicapped stall. If the floor of the handicapped stall is not clean, call the venue staff and ask to have it cleaned.

This ensures that you will not later get the train/back of the dress dirty just by having it touch the floor.

When you need to go

  • Walk into the handicapped stall.  Remove (don't just pull down) your underpants.
  • Facing the toilet, pull up the front of your dress to your waist.
  • Walk straight forward, so you are straddling the toilet, and sit down that way. The train/back of your dress will now be away from the toilet, so you won't get them wet or dirty.
  • Lean forward before peeing.  That way, even if you drop the front of the dress onto the seat, you will not pee in its direction.

Special tips for hoop skirts/crinolines

  • When lifting your skirt, make sure that you grab all of the hoops together. this can be done by reaching under the bottom flounce and pulling straight up. If you are wearing an under-petticoat, don't forget to grab it too. This can be, and has been, a very bad thing to forget.
  • Once you have a good handle on the hoops, swing the whole thing to the rear, as if you are preparing to hula-hoop with your dress. This will move the whole contraption behind you and out of the 'danger zone'. It will also slightly lift a shorter train off the floor which is a plus.
  • When you are done, drop the hoop straight to the floor and give a little circular hip-shimmy. This will help you to get your dress hem back over the bottom hoop. It is always a good idea to have a friend do a 360 of the hem to make sure nothing is showing that shouldn't be.

And in case no one has told you this yet, never ever under any circumstances step straight backward while in a hoop. You will step on it, and you will fall over, and this will give a free show to anyone standing in front of you. Not directly related, but one of the top tips for wearing a hoop.

You may now resume your panic about all the other topics for your wedding day.

Unique Ideas...ring bearer pillow Posted February 7, 2012 by Katie Marx

I was online and I ran into this idea on one of the many sites I visit and I LOVE IT!  Instead of using a ring bearer pillow, we would use a bible to tie the rings together.  My faith is something we joke around about, but it is something that was so prevelant in my life growing up, and something I want to instill into our marriage and hopefully one day our children.  I would even like to make it more personal and use my Grandma's bible..but not sure who got that when she passed away:)

Have you guys seen any other cute, unique ideas.  Do share!

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5 Must have for your registry...allegedly Posted February 2, 2012 by Katie Marx

I found this article on theknot.com today.  The 5 things on your registry you should splurge on.  Am I just that cheap that I highly disagree with most of these???  My pots and pans don't have to be hundreds of dollars to be good- I will burn the food either way...My 10 dollar coffee pot works just fine and dandy (and if you ask me, I thought the ten bucks was a little pricey.)  As for fine china- yep we will never be entertaining anyone who wouldn't judge me for actually using fine china.  What do you guys think?  Is this accurate, or totally pretentious?

 

When choosing goods for your newlywed nest, everyday plates, stainless flatware, and small appliances are shoo-ins, but don't pass high-ticket items by because you think no one will buy them (guests can go in on gifts together), or that you'll never use them (think to the future). This is the time to upgrade the everyday versions of what you have, and also to get all the indulgences you need for special occasions (hosting Thanksgiving dinner four years from now.) So get that scanner ready for these five super-fine splurges:

 

Make a Sterling Choice

In our parents' time, sterling silver flatware was a fixed item on most wedding registries, and complete sets were passed down from one generation to the next. These days, couples tend to skip over sterling in favor of stainless, liking its lower price tag. But stainless will never hold the value, beauty, and heirloom quality of real silver. And it wears so well -- the more you use silver, the better it looks and the shinier the patina grows. Although it has to be hand-washed, the extra elbow grease is worth it for beautiful silver.

Work your china into your everyday dinners, as this top-quality tableware is meant for regular use.

Fine Dining

A lot of people shy away from fine dinnerware, thinking that usage once or twice a year doesn't make this fragile purchase worth it. But the truth is that porcelain and bone china are actually tougher and more durable than common stoneware. So don't save china for special occasions only, instead work it into your everyday dinners, as this top-quality tableware is meant for regular use.

 

Slice and Dice

High-quality knives are probably the single best investment you can make in your kitchen. Allowing you to prep meals faster, more easily, and more safely, you will immediately notice the impact of a quality knife on your cooking. Don't worry about getting the whole 23-knife set (although definitely do if you'll put them to good use). Instead invest in three basic types -- a chef's knife, a paring knife, and a serrated knife. When you register, pick each knife up at the store, checking for comfort, weight (should be on the hefty side), and balance (shouldn't feel like it's toppling out of your hand). You can't go wrong with brands such as Wüsthof, J.A. Henckels, and Shun.

 

Stove-toppers

You need more from a stockpot than the ability to boil water -- after all, there's a reason half the food gets burned when you use your cheap college cookware: Inexpensive pots and pans won't heat evenly or properly. Upgrade to stainless (corrode-resistant) pots and pans with aluminum or copper cores (great for heat conduction), any other copper combination, anodized aluminum, and cast iron.

 

Perk Up

Stop relying on your neighborhood barista to get your caffeine fix. Instead, use your registry to treat yourselves to the sophistication of espresso at home, sipped from the comfort of your own kitchen table. Sleek espresso machines often come with a hefty price tag, so put one on the registry and look forward to brunches and after-dinner noshes full of fun cappuccinos, espressos, and happily caffeinated guests.

Read more: Wedding Registry: 5 Registry Items to Splurge On - TheKnot.com http://wedding.theknot.com/online-wedding-registry/bridal-registry-tips/articles/wedding-registry-5-registry-items-to-splurge-on.aspx#ixzz1lFr9tt2H

Addressing Invites Posted January 30, 2012 by Katie Marx

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Well I attempted to address the invites this weekend...and lets just say, I got half way through!  I thought that was a personal victory!  Well I was doing that I completely forgot all of the other things that come along with the invites...I forgot about return address labels.  Thankfully I found a site and designed and ordered 250 of them for 4 bucks!  They should be here in a week, so yep, I managed to get myself another week before I absolutely have to finish the invites.  Let's see, I also didn't realize the etiquette that goes along with it.  I must have made three or four phone calls that night between my parents and my future in laws.  All with ridiculous questions...so if she is divorced but still kept her last name is she a Miss, Ms, or Mrs.?  At what point do I replace "and guest" with the name of the person they are dating...what if they have only been together for two weeks?  If I know they aren't dating anyone and won't be bringing a guest, do I still address to and guest?

And don't bother trying to get the answers on the internet.  The internet creates even more questions!  Their are basically two ways of doing it- old school traditional, or modern.  Somebody will most likely be offended either way-its a no win situation :)  Then I realized this morning, oh boy, I think I am supposed to put directions in, but does that just turn into clutter?  With almost everyone have a computer or gps, does anyone even pay attention to those maps?  To be honest with you, even when they send me directions I still choose to google it anyways.  For some reason I don't find the directions accurate if they simply state if coming from Green Bay.  It is like I need them to personally put my address and mapquest if for me before I would trust those directions, which we all know is ridiculous!

So I will continue to slowly but surely make progress on these invites- and hey if you got anything to motivate me let me know...because I guess 53 days isn't enough motivation!

First comes love, then comes...baby? New celebrity couple expecting! Posted January 23, 2012 by Katie Marx

Jay Cutler and Kristin Cavallari have announced they are expecting!  Yay for them.  If you don't know who Jay and Kristin are well get out from under your rock!  Jay is the injury pron quarterback for the Chicago Bears and Kristin is the villian on the Hills, and of course Laguna Beach. She was most recently seen on Dancing with the Stars, where she and estranged fiance Jay, decided to get back together...wonder if a pending baby was any part of the reason...hmmm?    Anyways- I LOVE hearing about new babies coming into this world- so even though they aren't my most favorite people- this is fantastic news!!

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Centerpiece Posted January 17, 2012 by Katie Marx

My cake lady aka sugar momma sent me this picture this weekend.  She did a mock up of my cupcakes!  I know I posted about these earlier, but that picture was without the flower pot and stuff.  These are going to look awesome!  I love these, and they are quite possibly my favorite thing we are doing at the wedding!  Instead of roses it will be daisies, but my favorite part- totally don't need centerpieces!  One of these will be at each table- totally saving money!  Not only that- it is assorted flavors and she is putting together a cute poem explaining that these are cupcakes and what flavors.  So pumped!

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The fitting! Posted January 12, 2012 by Katie Marx

I had my first fitting for my dress yesterday!  I can't believe how close we are getting!  When I originally ordered my dress I was in between sizes, and I was confident in my weight loss trek that I ordered a size too small.  Well when I tried it on yesterday- it was too big!  Do you know how awesome it is to order a size too small, and have to have them take it in by 4 inches?!?!?!  It was exhilarating!  I must say I am lucky though, because I have to admit the one new thing I added to my weight loss since ordering my dress is Ellipse fitness.  I started going there the weekend of Thanksgiving and I have lost ten pounds since then!  To lost ten pounds during the holidays is something I never thought would happen!  Not only that the classes are AWESOME!  I have hurt in places I never thought hurt before.  Even better- Michael comes with me.  We have tried going on runs together, lifting weights together - and we are both at completely different levels.  What I loved about this was it didn't matter what levels we are at- it is something we could do together.  I was definitely getting sick of running, and was worried I would start lagging on the exercise front...when I came to Ellipse it feels like it rejuvinated me :)  Not only that- their staff is awesome!  They are so fun and supportive- like I said it really doesn't matter what "level" you are at fitness wise- it is totally go at your own pace...and they do push you a little bit :)  SO I highly recommend checking them out- super fun cardio kickboxing classes AND strength training...and an awesome schedule!  Go check them out!  You will look AMAZING!

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Best Wedding Gift EVER! Posted January 12, 2012 by Katie Marx

A friend and coworker of mine sent me this video this morning.  Can I just say- this is AWESOME!!! The groom gave this to his bride as a wedding gift. But one thing that does annoy me- these are the types of videos that give me anxiety!!!  Everyone wants their wedding to be unique and have that one element that everyone talks about.  Well boom- here it is- not only that, it is going to get a million youtube hits!

I also have some questions- where the heck do these people find the time???  First of all getting all of my bridesmaids together on the same day to look for a bridesmaid dress was impossible- we plain and simple couldn't do it.  So how the heck did you talk 6 of your groomsmen to get together, and I am guessing multiple times, to practice this...actually how did you even get the groomsmen to agree to this???

So for anyone coming to my wedding expecting this- don't.  The Diesel has already told me he refuses to make a speech during the reception due to stage fright, so getting up and dancing is completely out of the picture.  Although it does disapoint me, because I am pretty sure his best man Matt would do one hell of a Ludacris :)

First Dance Posted January 10, 2012 by Katie Marx

We still haven't agreed on a first dance.  I still have my heart set on this :)  Listen to the interview with Gavin, Average Joe and Me below the song. 

After talking with Gavin below- how can this not be our song????

 

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